Maciej Ceglowski: The Social Graph is Neither

Asking computer nerds to design social software is a little bit like hiring a Mormon bartender.

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We have a name for the kind of person who collects a detailed, permanent dossier on everyone they interact with, with the intent of using it to manipulate others for personal advantage – we call that person a sociopath. And both Google and Facebook have gone deep into stalker territory with their attempts to track our every action. Even if you have faith in their good intentions, you feel misgivings about stepping into the elaborate shrine they’ve built to document your entire online life.

Open data advocates tell us the answer is to reclaim this obsessive dossier for ourselves, so we can decide where to store it. But this misses the point of how stifling it is to have such a permanent record in the first place. Who does that kind of thing and calls it social?

Maciej Ceglowski — The Social Graph is Neither

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I deactivated my Facebook account last week, accidentally clicked on a Facebook link today, and it automatically logged me back in. Creepy.

Initiating two week deletion countdown.

Facebook and the Epiphanator: An End to Endings?

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As someone with Franzendentalist roots and Epiphinator tendencies, who consumes too many hours of social media, I keep sensing some serious hurt feelings from the older-media side — “Why would you love that thing instead of me?” They act like my wife would if I brought home a RealDoll. But it’s not like that. I don’t think people love Twitter or Facebook in the same way they might love Parks and Recreation or Twilight. Rather, we like the beer and tolerate the bottle. And even if we have those other browser tabs open, we’re still hungry for endings.

Paul Ford — Facebook and the Epiphanator: An End to Endings?